Although the main event keeps us all excited, there are pre-wedding events to look forward to, too. First comes the bridal shower, then the rehearsal dinner. And, finally comes some time for the bride and her best girlfriends at the bachelorette party. I know what you are thinking! But no, not every bachelorette involves men in thongs! Yet, it does not include a tea party either! The best party is a mix. It should be a choreographed catch-up time. But at the same time, you should loosen up. Because what happens at the bachelorette stays at a bachelorette! Are you in charge of planning one such event? Do not worry! I got you covered with all tips and rules! Here is how to get it just right.

What is a bachelorette party?

The first known bachelor party dates back to 5 B.C., in ancient Sparta. They were honoring a groom the night before his wedding. Yet, women did not have the same treatment till nearly two millennia later. The first bridal shower happened in 16th century Europe. And lastly, the bachelorette party was born along with the women’s liberation movement of the ’60s. Women got tired of boring showers. And that was fair. I mean, why would only guys have crazy nights out? There is a legend saying that bachelorette parties began as a second shower. But you know, this one is only for friends. Girls can get tipsy and open better presents, like sex toys, without Aunt Karen watching on.

Top Sellers –

So, what is a bachelorette party exactly? The term bachelorette means a young unmarried woman. Thus, a bachelorette party is a gathering for a bride before she marries. And it is usually hosted months in advance. Plus, it is supposed to be personalized and focused on the bride.

Yes, weddings are significant. But the bachelorette party matters a lot too. Do you know what is staying with the heart and soul intact? The memories. It is a celebration of a few remaining days of your bachelorhood before saying the big I do. Everyone may end up drunk. But this night is more than getting a bride wasted. It is about overcoming all inhibitions and dancing like there is no tomorrow.

Our recommendations –

Who plans a bachelorette party?

Typically, the maid of honor is the one who organizes the bachelorette party. But anyone can do it! If a bridesmaid or any loved one wishes to make it, it is okay! It is only improper for the bride to thrown her bachelorette party. The bride should have a say in the activities, but she is not the one who should put her effort into it. To explain it better, the one who plants it must check with the bride what she wishes. While it is great to leave the specifics a surprise, always be sure if the bride will be comfortable overall.

You may also like to read –
How to Plan an Adult Party? Adult Party Ideas – An Ultimate guide
The Ultimate Guide To The Best 20 Games For Couples: Fun And Romantic
How to Plan A Perfect Bachelor Party? ideas to make it a memorable event.
The Best 19 Games To Play On Adult Party. The best Adult party games ideas
How to organize Bachelorette Parties? and the budget bachelorette party ideas

Who pays for what at a bachelorette party?

A bride should not pay for the activities held during the bachelorette party. What she is supposed to pay for is her transportation. Plus, she is paying for her eventual accommodation if the party is not in her hometown. Speaking about the activities, the guests should share the costs.

What does the maid of honor pay for?

The maid of honor could help the bride pay for wedding decorations. Also, she could assist the bride in shopping for a wedding dress. Plus, to plan shopping tours for bridesmaid dresses, shoes, and accessories. She is not supposed to buy, but to help a bride pick a flower girl gift and ring bearer gift.

Our recommendations –

When should you have a bachelorette party?

If a bachelorette party is a single night out, the celebration is in the same week as the wedding. But if it is a weekend trip, it should be a few weeks or even a couple of months before. Also, the preference of the bride is crucial. Does she want it to be much earlier so that she could take it easy? Or does she prefer it nearer?

The timing is key – be sure to have enough time to plan

We are speaking about a once-in-a-lifetime event. You are aware of it, and you wish for it to be unique. So, imagine regretting not doing something? That would be so disturbing!

Thus, take the time to research all options. A good idea is to make one list of activities, and another of the things you need to buy. You might need to re-write the list couple of times. But the effort you put in it is worth it if you love the bride!

Imagine wanting to make a reservation of a place only to realize it is all booked already? So, do that in advance too. You could be the type of person who does everything at the last minute. Change your habits for this magnificent moment.

The guest list

The most usually attendees are the people who are invited to the wedding. The exceptions happen when it is a small destination wedding or a family-only wedding. Still, this is not something you can do on your own! You cannot make the guest list without consulting with the bride. The guests will be bridesmaids, sisters from the bride, and close friends. And maybe a future sister-in-law if the bride has a bond with her. But you must ask the bride!

Now, formal invitations are not a must! But if you do it, it is always a nice plus! Anyway, let us see! A weekend getaway needs a mailed invitation. It is okay to send an e-mail for a spa day. A call for a night out is easy to do via phone call.

And if you are a guest, it is always nice to give feedback to the maid of honor or the one who organizes it. So, that she knows how many people are coming.

Is it rude not to go to a bachelorette party?

There is no rule saying if you must say yes. But, if you are one of the bridesmaids, you are expected to go. And even if you are friends, it is nice to go. An exception is if you have a reason that prevents you. She would be happy to have all her close friends there. And you are invited for the closeness with her.

Set a budget – it is not stingy

So, you and the rest of the guests are sharing the costs. Some of them might stand better economically than others. Be thoughtful and estimate how much money you will spend. And then reach out to the people, and see if they agree.
Another good idea is to pay the organizer upfront. It would be best to do it for all activities, including the food and drinks. In that way, you will avoid the awkward asking for money from those who did not pay you. Do not worry about any leftover funds. It is easy to split it between the guests later and return it.

Think about transport

Another thing you wish to avoid is to have it all planned and booked, only to realize that you do not have how to get there. If it is somewhere in the town, you are most likely okay since you could book a taxi. One more option is a shuttle bus. A bit more pricey comes with clubbing style lights and a spacious room to dance. It is also a good option if you are not having a party only at one spot but at a restaurant and a club. Like this, you could continue partying while you travel from first to second place.

It is a bit more complicated if you are traveling to another city or country. But, that is not an issue either. All you have to do is booking a ticket in advance. As with everything, make sure that location is desirable for the bride and it fits the budget of everyone.

Set tasks – it is okay if you are not alone in this

Brainstorm ideas with the other guests. You could make a group chat on any app to make it all easier. Leave the bride out of this as she does not need to stress! When you gather up all ideas, carry them on to the bride to make sure she loves them.

It is nice that you want to be in charge of all and put your effort into it. Still, you should include everyone. It is tiring to do it all alone, so split the tasks. Ask someone to be responsible for ordering decor. Someone else could do the menu and pick up the food. But be sure to set a deadline so that no one is late.

The Bride is Diva

What are the expectations of the bride? How many days should the party last? Does she think that decoration resembling male anatomy is funny? Or she dislikes it? You must know what is relevant to her, and communication is the key to that. After all, it is HER bachelorette party! So her voice should be the loudest. Even the decor should fit her personality.

What about gifts?

Do you know that moment when the bride sits down and open gifts? That is a bridal shower! At this pre-wedding party, the closest family members and friends are giving presents. So no, a bachelorette party does not include gifting. Anyway, it could be fun to do it! On a bridal shower, you were giving her nice stuff for the house. You could not give her a kinky present when her mum or aunt were watching. But at a bachelorette party are only girlfriends! No gender could be as expert as the ladies at all sorts of dirty. It is perfect timing to get her sex toys! They are beneficial, and she will be grateful. Plus, it will give you all a good laugh as she is unpacking them.

Dress Code – Yes or No?

Thinking about whatever you should or not have a dress code, I would say go for it! It could be awkward if everyone comes fancy and only one person super casual and similar.

Typically, the bride wears white at the bachelorette party. That means that the rest of the ladies should leave that color at home. A little black dress is always an elegant solution. Unless, of course, the bride has a different request.

Create Those Special Touches

Details, details, and more details! There are plenty of things you can add to the party to make it fabulous! I do not know the bride, so I cannot tell you precisely. But I will throw a bunch of ideas at you so that you could pick some!

You finished picking whatever it should be chocolate or fruit cake. Now, what about the shape? It could be formed like the genitals! Imagine all the jokes you could tell while eating it!

What about cups? You could get matching ‘I said/She said yaas!’ party ones.

No, shirts do not have to be the typical ones everyone gets! Is the bride passioned wine lower? Get wine-themed bachelorette shirts! Plus, when it is all over, you could still wear it! Hello, my new favorite shirt!

Are you planning to drink too much? You could get for everyone personalized hair scrunchies! They will hold your hair back if needed, plus it is a good memory for after.

I know everyone buys badges, but you could do tattoos. No, I don’t mean permanent! Get a temporary one. For sure, it will be a highlight of the night!

Be prepared – both mentally and physically

The party will last until late, so you want to make sure you are not sleepy that day. Make sure you are sleeping enough, having a proper diet, and drinking enough water. Energy comes first!

Secondly, your mindset should be at the right place too. You do not want to spend the special night thinking about your ex, etc. Try to stay out of the drama till it is all done. A good mood means a good time!

What do you do at a bachelorette party?

For some girls, a night out or staying at home with a movie is doing the trick. But if you are looking for something different, there are many ideas on board. Vineyard hopping is offering gorgeous scenery while tasting your favorite drink. Or maybe your bride-to-be loves being one with nature. If yes, you could go camping! A night filled with bonfires, marshmallow roasting, and fresh air could be a perfect pick. You like strip clubs but not feeling like sitting in one? Well, you could hop up on a pole yourself! Maybe there are some pole dancing classes near you.

Moving on to the next point, you finished almost everything! You decided whatever you are staying in the town or going on a trip. You booked transport, hotel if needed, the restaurant or bar. You know if you are going to a spa, or at Britney concert cause bride loved her as a teen. A yes or no to the strippers is also not a question anymore. Now all you have to do is to fill in the narrowest details.  When your activities are done, what are you planning to do? Sure, it is nice to sit and share gossips, but what about games?

You could play a traditional Drink if game. Even if you do not have a card, it is okay! You could make up the statement. The more things apply to you, the more you drink. So, the naughtiest girl ends up drunkest! Or you prefer to play What is on Your Phone? It is fun to explore the contents of each other phones. Thus, do not cheat and delete in forwards things as you know you will play this!
Do you want to make things more hilarious? Each guest should bring a new pair of panties that best match her own personality. The bride must guess who gifted her which set.

In the end, do not stress! If you put your heart into it, it will special. This is a last fling before the ring! So, make it count with the memories!